You want to tell your partner how you feel
about them but you end up staring at a blank screen for so long you give up. Or
you try a few lines only to delete them all and start over. Again. Why is it so
hard to tell the loved one in our life exactly what they mean to us? Do you
struggle to find the words to properly convey how you feel? Or is it that you
just can't explain it? Don't let words get in the way of telling your loved one
how much they mean to you.
Everyone wants to be loved. When you are busy
living life, there never seems time to slow down and really savour that central
relationship that makes it all worthwhile. Oftentimes we think that those
closest to us know exactly how we feel about them and how important they are to
us. But the sad reality is that often they don't.
So how can you write a love letter that you
will feel proud to give and one that your loved one will cherish for all time?
Where do you start? Follow these easy tips below and you'll be on your way in
no time.
1. First write down 5 things that you love
about your partner and be as specific as possible. Rather than writing that
they are kind, instead be detailed about how they are kind. Perhaps they always
smile at waiters in restaurants or they are great at making people feel
included, especially at parties.
2. Write down 5 things that they have done
that confirms how much you love them and again, give examples. Perhaps they
enveloped you in a hug last night when you were feeling frustrated about your
family. Or maybe they knew how disappointed you were when you missed out on
that promotion and they cooked a special meal to cheer you up.
3. Pick the best three examples from each of
the above categories and weave them into your letter. You could start by saying
'I love how you…' and then include the three examples from the first point.
Then you could say something like 'I loved the way you…' and then mention the
other examples. Make sure you emphasise how their actions made you feel, how
loved you felt and how grateful you are to have them in your life.
4. It is best to write up a draft first and
then go over it to see if you can improve it. Sometimes it helps to write up
what you want to say, edit it until it flows well and then leave it for a day
or two before going back for a final edit and polish.
5. Buy some special paper and write out your
letter. Don't worry if your handwriting isn't perfect – it's distinctly yours
and your loved one will appreciate the time and effort you put into the letter.
If you feel your writing is so bad it will be difficult to read or if your
illegible handwriting is something you've argued about before then pay to get
it hand written by a professional. At a stretch you could use a more romantic
font on your computer, say Garamond in italic, but you should really only do
that as a last resort. The more personal you can make your letter the more your
loved one will treasure it.
6. Think about how you plan on delivering
this letter to them. Will you slip it in their briefcase? Mail it? Leave it
under the pillow? Do you want to be there when they open it? If you want to see
their reaction, then it is best to hand it to them. You could team the letter
up with a small gift like flowers or chocolate but make sure the gift doesn't
diminish the letter as you want that to be the main focus.
